CHAPTER 3 - PLACE OF THE CANE
Some people say 'I do not need cane in my house, I love my child'. Hear what the Holy Book says;
Pro 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
If you do not flog the child when he knowingly does wrong, it is a sign that you hate that child.
Pro 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him. (AMP)
The first part of Prov 22:15, I like the way Good News Bible Translation puts it;
“Children just naturally do silly, careless things” but the rod of discipline is the tool necessary to drive foolishness far from the child.
Num 20:8 Take the rod, and gather thou the assembly together, thou, and Aaron thy brother, and speak ye unto the rock before their eyes; and it shall give forth his water, and thou shalt bring forth to them water out of the rock: so thou shalt give the congregation and their beasts drink.
Num 20:11 And Moses lifted up his hand, and with his rod he smote the rock twice: and the water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their beasts also.
Pro 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Pro 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
Some may wonder what the above passages have to do with the discipline of children. Let us study the scripture a little. God gave Moses an instruction to speak to the rock, and instead Moses beat the rock. Anyway it still brought forth water but Moses suffered for it. In terms of discipline, God says beat the child, but instead some parents only speak in anger to the child, just like in the case of Moses, the child may be corrected at the moment, but you may suffer for it. There are children who are living under a curse their parents spoke into their lives in anger, and the parents are seeking in tears for God to deliver their adult-children from stupidity. Some have spoken coconut head into their children and wards.If you use the wrong tool for a particular job, you would likely injure yourself. Use the cane to drive foolishness away from that young child. And scripture urges you to do it in love, hence do not injure the child, yet flog the child in such a way that he/she feels the pain. Few minutes after I beat my daughter hard with the cane, I embrace her. She cries awhile and stays with me. Gradually I see the foolishness running away.
You should endeavour to be sure the child knows why he is flogged. And many times be sure that the wrong was intentional. May the Lord grant you wisdom.
Let us look at the next passage in two translations;
Pro 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. (KJV)
Pro 19:18 Discipline your children while they are young enough to learn. If you don't, you are helping them destroy themselves. (GNB)
While there is still hope, discipline with the cane. The passage portrays a scenerio that there comes a time when there will be no more hope in terms of beating with the came. The second version makes it clearer. Discipline when the child is still young enough. I have seen parents beat BIG children with the cane, it had little or no impact. Hence at a particular stage what the grown up child may need more is counselling.
Some may ask; What age would you consider as young? That question, I may not be able to answer. WHY?? Each child is unique, some crawl at 7 months, and some at 20 months. Some are weaned at a year old, some at 3 years. What am I saying? Start early to discipline your child, do not wait till there is no hope.
Hello Parents, Discipline is not genetic, being disciplined cannot gaurantee that your child would automatically be disciplined. Some even feel that being anointed by God would give automatic passport to having well-trained children. Take an example of priest Eli in the Bible;
1Sa 2:12 The sons of Eli were base and worthless; they did not know or regard the Lord. (AMP)
1Sa 3:13 For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not. Eli was very much anointed yet his sons were worthless because he did not restrain them(lack of discipline). It appears to me that Eli did only speaking with no beating;
1Sa 2:22a Eli was now very old. He kept hearing about everything his sons were doing to the Israelites ...
1Sa 2:23 So he said to them, "Why are you doing these things? Everybody tells me about the evil you are doing.
1Sa 2:24 Stop it, my sons! This is an awful thing the people of the LORD are talking about!
With all his talking, God still said in 1 Sam 3:13, that Eli did not restrain his sons. These children led to their father's death. fact that he witnessed what happen to Eli's family must have made a similar mistake. Concerning training his children properly;
1Sa 8:1 And it came to pass, when Samuel was old, that he made his sons judges over Israel.
1Sa 8:2 Now the name of his firstborn was Joel; and the name of his second, Abiah: they were judges in Beersheba.
1Sa 8:3 And his sons walked not in his ways, but turned aside after lucre, and took bribes, and perverted judgment.
Preachers or holy men should handle the issue of proper discipline seriously with trembling. Eli and Samuel did not get it right. The bible says 'work out your salvation with fear and trembling' ( used here slightly out of context though ). You can get it right if the right principles are applied. Use the cane when necessary and let not thy soul spare for his crying(Prov. 19:18)
Please do not beat beyond the offence committed. Some parents/guardians store up offences, they say to the child, 'you did this 2 weeks ago, and did that a week ago, and did these today I will show you today' Hence they flog the child/ward based on 2 weeks' offence That is wrong.